Crawley mum backs charity survey highlighting strain on families caring for terminally ill child during lockdown

A mum from Crawley, West Sussex, whose daughter has a severe heart condition and autism, is backing new survey results being launched this week illustrating the immense strain on families caring for a life-threatened or terminally ill child during the pandemic.
Emma Smith and daughter Abi. Picture courtesy of the Rainbow TrustEmma Smith and daughter Abi. Picture courtesy of the Rainbow Trust
Emma Smith and daughter Abi. Picture courtesy of the Rainbow Trust

Emma Smith is one of the families supported by Rainbow Trust who took part in its survey at the start of 2021.

This is the third survey Rainbow Trust has conducted since the start of the pandemic.

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In 2021, 56 per cent of respondents said that their family situation was worse or much worse than the first national lockdown and 54 per cent also said that their mental health was either ‘worse’ or ‘much worse’ than in March 2020.

The survey is a clear indication of the vast pressures families with a seriously ill child are under, as they continue to face stress and anxiety over the health of their child during the pandemic.

Sixty-three per cent of parents said the risk of their child contracting COVID-19 was their greatest concern and 63 per cent are still shielding.

Medical treatment has been affected for 51 per cent of families including delayed appointments, suspended treatments and problems accessing medication.

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One family surveyed said prior to the pandemic their child was assessed by their consultant every 21 days but this has now dramatically reduced to every 12 weeks.

Additional financial strain is being felt by 40 per cent of families with reasons cited including: job losses, income reduction and being furloughed.

Emma Smith lives with her husband Tim and two daughters – Abi (15) and Roo (14). Abi is autistic and has a severe heart condition called dilated cardiomyopathy which causes her heart muscles to be extremely weakened and enlarged. As a result, Abi is a wheelchair user and requires 24/7 care.

For Emma and her family, the third lockdown has been incredibly tough for all of them. Emma said, “We have been almost continually shielding for over a year now.

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"We made the decision to pull Roo out of school on March 13 2020 as she became terrified of bringing Covid back into the house.

"The risk of Covid was too high for Abi and also for me as I have a history of severe asthma.

“The latest lockdown has been the hardest for all of us because Tim and I have had no respite for over a year now.

"There has been almost no support for us during Covid – you get no mental health support as parents – just a pat-on-the-back and a 'keep going'.

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"As a parent with a seriously ill child, you’re expected to carry on until you drop – and the pandemic has made it much harder.

“At Christmas I felt really angry that the government was letting everyone meet up when the rates of infections were still rising so fast.

"I felt really anxious. We’ve had times over this past year where we have almost given up and when it has all felt too much.

“I’ve kept going because I’m a mum and I have to, but it’s my kids I feel so sorry for.

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"The winter months made it dreadful with dark, wet days and battling to get home-schooling done on top of Abi’s care.

2She has really struggled as it’s not fair for a 15-year-old to be cooped up with her family continually - but being in a wheelchair she has no independence.

"For Roo at 14, she should be flourishing and gaining independence but she’s not able to.

“I am really thankful for the support we’ve had from Rainbow Trust. Our Family Support Worker Janet helps us when we have to travel up to appointments at Great Ormond Street Hospital.

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"She saves my sanity by driving us up, as trying to navigate it all on my own would be a nightmare.

"When restrictions allow Janet comes into the hospital and supports me, as the days can be so long and demanding, particularly if Abi gets distressed.

"Just buying me a coffee and having someone to talk makes a big difference.

“Throughout the pandemic Janet has also kept in regular contact with us through texts and phone calls – her virtual support has meant a lot.

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"Just knowing she is there, even though we can’t always see her in person, has been a real help.”

As the anniversary of the first national lockdown looms, Rainbow Trust is calling on the Government not to ignore families with a life-threatened child as restrictions start to lift.

The charity is highlighting the continuing extreme social isolation for these families as they cope with the continuing pressure of caring for a seriously ill child during the pandemic.

Zillah Bingley, Rainbow Trust Chief Executive says: “Our survey clearly shows that a year on, and as government plans to gradually lift restrictions in the months ahead, it is vital that families caring for a life threatened or terminally ill child are not forgotten.

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"While most of society is looking forward to resuming pre-pandemic normality, we know many families caring for a seriously ill child are still living in fear after being disproportionately affected over the past 12 months.

“The majority of parents responding to our survey are telling us that they are still extremely socially isolated, which has had a direct and negative impact on their mental health.

"On top of this they have had to cope with their child’s delayed medical care and increased financial strain.

“The recent budget failed to address the needs of families with seriously ill children, so now we are urging government to invest in short breaks and respite care which these families so desperately need after a year of immense stress, and to build back a society where these families no longer feel ignored and overlooked.”